Hi! I’m Cara Alwill. Best-selling author, host of the top-rated Style Your Mind podcast, and certified master life coach. And up until not so long ago, my love life was an absolute shit show.

I divorced my husband in January of 2020. After over ten years together, our relationship had become one of convenience. We were great friends, but definitely not lovers. The spark had left the building, and there was just no getting it back. Even after countless conversations and half-hearted attempts at date nights, it was evident that our relationship had run its course.

I probably stayed longer than I should have. I was afraid to leave. And I’m sure he was as well. I was terrified of facing the discomfort that came with unraveling our lives. We were great friends and partners in life. I didn’t want to hurt him. I didn’t want to deal with the inevitable mess that would come along with a divorce. The idea of uprooting my own life was one thing, but to do that to another person that I cared for and respected? The guilt ate me alive. And the “undoing” scared the shit out of me. 

Being alone also scared the shit out of me. Who would I be as a newly single 40 year old woman? I had been in relationships for the past 20 years. Prior to my marriage, I was in a long-term relationship with my first boyfriend, and after that spent zero to little time being single. I was a master at jumping from relationship to relationship. I was a master at becoming enmeshed with someone else, which I would later discover was a very convenient way of never having to fully be with myself.

The past three years have been a chaotic, beautiful, dazzling dumpster fire. I have found love, lost love, fallen for the wrong guys, become obsessed with even worse ones. I have navigated situationships, countless first dates, dating apps, love bombers, real relationships, unavailable men – you name it. And through it all, I have somehow found my way back to myself.

I have been to hell and back in my post-divorce dating life, but through it all I have gained immeasurable wisdom that has given me a unique perspective on love and most importantly, helped me love myself with abandon.

I’m not perfect. I don’t have a PHD in relationships. But I have a ton of experience, a hot pink diamond-encrusted toolbox of self-awareness that’s better than any diamond ring, and a passion for helping women master the one and only relationship in their lives that counts most – the one they have with themselves.

Join me in this 3-day immersive workshop where we will ask the hard questions, release the low vibrational energies (and men!), and raise your standards so that you can become the QUEEN of your life.

She Comes First will not teach you how to “get a man” or create a perfect relationship, because guess what? That doesn’t exist. What it will do is help you become so solid in yourself, so obsessed with your own world, that you will be so filled up with love that any man who comes along will simply be the cherry on top. (And if that cherry is rotten, you’ll know exactly how to toss it and find a better one.)